There is a balance, a fairness that often people seem to be missing. They move from "the parent is king" to "the child is king" and seem to miss consensus and boundary building all together. -- Julie Stauffer

Every time you make a decision, wait until you've thought of two choices and choose the better one. -- Sandra Dodd

The goal of unschooling is not education. It is to help a child be who she is and blossom into who she will become. Learning happens as a side effect. -- Joyce Fetteroll

What is most important and valuable about the home as a base for children's growth into the world is not that it is a better school than the schools, but that it isn't a school at all. -- John Holt

We tend to credit the school for success and blame the child for failure. Yet unschooled kids learn fine without schools. The natural conclusion is that kids learn despite school and fail because of school. -- Joyce Fetteroll

You did then what you knew how to do, and when you knew better, you did better. -- Maya Angelou

Showing respect means acting towards your child as you want your child to act towards others. Kids learn far more from how we behave towards them than from how we tell them to behave. -- Joyce Fetteroll

At the checkstand, Andy asked if he had to share the bears. I said no, but reminded him that when we set a precedent of not sharing, we may find that others don't want to share with us. I said nothing more on it. -- Sylvia Toyama

Don't worry that children never listen to you. Worry that they are always watching you. -- Robert Fulghum

Put the relationship first. Then fit everything else around that. -- Joyce Fetteroll

Unfortunately there isn't a short cut from believing learning looks like school to knowing that learning from playing, exploring and living is better. It needs experienced. -- Joyce Fetteroll